I don’t know who I am, or what my life is going to look like tomorrow.

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Thanks for being here. I hope you’ll enjoy this short summary of…well, myself.

  • I am Stefania Simon, 24, still living in my Romanian home city, Iasi
  • I usually avoid more specific titles because it’s never one single thing that can define us
  • I like to think that I still wander, even though I am not lost — as the famous quote used to say
  • Bachelor's Degree in Computer Science & Master’s Degree in Project Management

How should parents react when kids start smoking?

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We’ve all heard — or been there, either as parents or children, being caught smoking or finding out about our kids doing that. What most of us don’t know is how to react properly in these situations, in order to avoid a conflict and possibly prevent it from happening again.

Let’s begin with a familiar story.

It starts with a child who’s around 10–11 years old — when his neocortex (Rider) is only semi-developed, as opposed to the age of 25 when it’s completely mature. …

How our childhood influences our relationships

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Attachment is a special emotional relationship that involves an exchange of comfort, care, and pleasure. Our early attachment styles, characterized by different ways of interacting and behaving in relationships, are established in childhood through the infant/caregiver relationship. In the context of the Triune Brain, the Elephantlimbic system — biologically enables us to create connections, thus the first attachment bond we build is the mother-infant bond, which can be seen in all mammals, regardless of the species.

The pioneers of the attachment theory, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth researched the concept of attachment…

David Rock’s SCARF Model

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The well-known expression “to push (all) the right buttons, meaning to cause a reaction or emotion in someone, especially when this makes them do what we want, is not just a figure of speech. These buttons do exist, in fact, and they represent sensibilities, emotional springs that all mammals have, i.e. all creatures that have a limbic system. Factors like age, culture, hierarchical level, sex, etc, do not matter when talking about these buttons, the limbic system makes us all reactive to them.

An important thing to keep in mind about these buttons is that they…

How do our mental models shape reality?

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Nowadays there are plenty of theories and discussions about the way we perceive reality, stating the fact that everyone experiences it differently, according to their own filters. Even though reality appears to be a certainty that all of us are aware of, it usually reveals itself as a human construct, because it’s not made of physical objects, but it exists in our own awareness.


In order to further explain how our mental patterns work, we need to refer to NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), a pseudoscientific approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy created by…

How chemicals in our brain make us cheerful

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Neurochemicals are small molecules involved in our neural activity that influence our behaviour by changing our mood. While the Triune Brain Metaphor and The Elephant Rider Unit explain the physical structure of our brain, neurotransmitters, that the body produces by itself, are the chemical part responsible for our state of mind.

These molecules are processed in the limbic system, in a region called the hypothalamus, where most of the neurochemical activity is being concentrated, thus they can also be observed in non-human mammals.

How to keep our emotions under control

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We've all experienced some unpleasant moments that made us lose our mind, get angry and say or do things we regretted later.

In the context of neuroscience, the idea of going off our heads is a synonym for emotional hijacking. Psychologist and science journalist Daniel Goleman has published several books and articles related to Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, Mindfulness, Psychology. However, one of the concepts Goleman made familiar to the public was emotional hijacking.

Neurological level

Whenever we see, hear, experience something that we perceive as threatening, a cortical structure called amygdala is being triggered. The…

What and why do we actually forget?

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Memory has always been a subject of debate, mostly because it’s still a mystery for most of us. What we call memories are just a modified representation of reality. In addition to that, because we store in our memory certain things without being aware, our behavior automatically changes.

Despite the relatively common belief that we only have one type of memory that is responsible for us forgetting or remembering certain things, the truth is much more complicated than that. Briefly explained, we operate with two main memory models:

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The Tripod of Life

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It goes without saying that our brain plays a crucial role in our lives, but we mustn’t forget about other two concepts that are just as essential for us: our mind, and our relationships. This article focuses on the interdependence of these three components, how they influence each other, and how this phenomenon impacts us.

This association was brought to attention by neuroscientist, clinical professor of psychiatry Daniel J. Siegel, who also calls himself a researcher in interpersonal neurobiology. This field seeks the similar patterns that arise from separate approaches to knowledge, according to his statement…

The conflict within ourselves

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It's well known that humans, whether we are talking about scientists, psychologists or philosophers, have been trying to explain why our mind behaves in mysterious ways. This article focuses on an unexpected discovery that most of our decisions are actually based on emotions, rather than reason.

Briefly addressed in our last article, The Triune Brain Theory states that we have three cortical structures that correspond to different periods in evolution: the reptilian and limbic systems, and the neocortex — which is the newest and most complex.

However, instead of talking about three parts of the brain…

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